There Is Magic in Kindness


I’ve written about making a memory with the focus on our loved ones, but sometimes, briefly, our lives will cross paths with someone whom you will never forget. Your life is never quite the same, because for that brief connection, something happened. Time stood still and nothing else existed. It’s a remarkable experience. Two completely separate lives that intersect.

Always be aware and take those few extra moments for these encounters. They tend to happen when you least expect them.

While checking out at the grocery store, I noticed the woman behind the register. She was older, much older than I expected at the time of evening that I was shopping, especially since her makeup looked fresh and like she had just arrived. I just really felt like saying something nice to her, so I commented on how lovely she looked today. Through our conversation, I realized she had been there for quite a few hours and had been up early that morning. Well, at that point, I commented on her makeup looking so fresh like she had just arrived. She told me that she had put it on around 9 o’clock that morning. At this point, I HAD to know what she used. She told me and also mentioned her son in the conversation while she told me a little about her day. Mind you, we are having this whole conversation while I am checking out with a line forming behind us. As she began to open up a little more, she mentioned her son again. He obviously loves her very much. I commented on their wonderful relationship. It was here the story began to take an unexpected turn. She told me that she lost a daughter, and she felt like they were extra close after that had happened. I told her how sorry I was. She began to open up a little more and shared how her daughter died. She was young, only 28 years old, and had just moved into an apartment. She had talked to her daughter that night and told her that she loved her and would talk to her tomorrow. That was the last time she ever talked to her daughter. She died that night of carbon monoxide poisoning due to an issue with the heater in her apartment. She talked of the importance of telling your children that you love them. This offered her a small amount of comfort in knowing these were their last words. She talked of the importance of this as she finished checking out my groceries. I have always done this myself. I don’t know why, but I always have done this with those I cherish. The last words I ever said to my brother, just hours before he was rushed to the hospital and died later the next day, were the exact same as the ones she said to her daughter. As I was preparing to leave, I looked at her and said how glad I was to have met her and how much I had enjoyed talking with her. She said to look for her next time. I smiled and said I would. At this point, I looked at the line behind me and noticed the kindness in the eyes of the people waiting in line who were also obviously touched by this beautiful woman’s story.

There are several morals to this story.

  • Take time to be kind. You never know how much you might be the one who is blessed from it. Everyone has a story, a beautiful treasure hidden inside. Take time to find it.
  • Always be patient while waiting in line, you never know when you just might be a witness to one of these moments. You could be the one who needed to hear the message.
  • Along with your smoke detector, always have a working carbon monoxide detector in your home. Tell everyone you know. It’s so important and could save a life.
  • Always tell those you cherish how much you love them.
Grocery shopping is probably one of my least favorite things to do, but I sure would not trade that particular trip. I will forever be touched by this woman. There was magic in that moment. I’m not sure who needed it or for whom it was meant, but there was magic in it. Take time to be kind to someone and have a blessed day!

Balcony People | The Heroes in our Lives

Leading ladies have balcony people. They are the people who make you feel loveable when the whole world makes you feel unloveable. They are the ones that no matter what happens they are there saying, “I love you, and you are AMAZING.” They will wrap their arms around you and tell the whole world to kiss their ass and to leave you alone. Somehow, it makes nothing the mean people and bullies in the world do matter so much. It makes whatever they do roll off your back so much easier and faster.

You don’t need an army of them, but you do need a few people that will have your back. They cheer you on, they give you a hug, encourage you, and protect you.

Sometimes, no matter how strong you are or how brave you are, your shoulders are tired, and it feels so good to have your balcony people.

I am forever grateful for my balcony people.

Life is wonderful in that sometimes we have the balcony people and sometimes we get to be the balcony people. Our balcony people also need encouragement, less they run out of love to give. So look around and see who the balcony people in your life are. Do not ever take them for granted because great balcony people are hard to come by. Let’s do something extra special for the balcony people in our lives!

The Real Difference Between Thinking and Believing


We all have dreams, a life we want to live, a job we want to do, a mark we want to leave, but what separates those of us who only dream from those of us whose dreams come true?

Is it money? Is it education? Is it the right connections? Could be. It could be some of all of those, but that doesn’t explain the people who live their dreams and accomplish great things without any of those. It must be something else.

One thing most people have in common whose dreams come true is that they believed it, sacrificed for it, and made their daily choices as if it were possible.

If we truly believe, we make different choices. If we’re not believing, we really aren’t actively moving toward our dream at all. We’re just thinking positively about it and wishing for it. One is active and doing, and the other isn’t because more than likely we’re not truly believing it is possible. We’re accepting the defeat that keeps us from moving forward and making the daily decisions that propels us in the direction of our dreams.

What leading lady wants to live a life of defeat? That is most certainly not the dream. Be brave. You can do this.

I believe in the power of writing things down. Sit down and write your dream. What do you need to do to be moving in that direction? Make your decisions for the day like you believe your dreams are possible. If you believed your dreams were completely possible, what would you be doing differently today to move toward them? That is what you need to be doing. That is what will make dreams come true.

Playing Small Does Not Serve the World

Dear Friend,

Ever notice how we struggle with accepting compliments or even thinking good things about ourselves, like we are almost being conceited?

Yet, we’re supposed to be confident.

It is okay to think good things about yourself. It’s the beginning of thinking good about others. If we don’t think well of ourselves and like ourselves, it’s almost impossible to really like others. We are in too small of a place to like others.

Leading ladies like themselves. They like who they are. And they like others.

If you were to sit down right now and think of yourself at your best, on your best day, when you are happiest, when you are truly letting yourself shine through, what do you see? What do you love about yourself?

Whatever is coming to your mind that you feel in your heart, write that down. Now.

In order to love others, we must first love ourselves or we have nothing to give the world.

It’s okay to love yourself. It really is.

These are the things I love about myself. It’s truly okay to say that, even out loud. It will even give others permission to love themselves, too.

I am thankful for who I am, all the good that I am.
I am smart.
I am creative.
I am inspired.
I am inspirational.
I am soulful.
I am kind.
I am lovely.

You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking. – Marianne Williamson

What do you love about yourself? I won’t judge you or think you are conceited, just let it flow from year heart. That is the real you.

Dear Friend

Dear Friend,

I’ve decided to start all of my posts with the greeting, “Dear Friend”. I got the idea when writing a very special and dear friend and found that I wrote more from my heart, and that is what I want to do with you, my new dear friends. While we may have never met, I do hope that we become friends in this journey together.

It reminds me of a quote from the movie, You’ve Got Mail:

“I like to start my notes to you as if we’re already in the middle of a conversation. I pretend that we’re the oldest and dearest friends- as opposed to what we actually are- people who don’t know each other’s names and met in a chat room where we both claimed we’d never been before. What will NY152 say today, I wonder. I turn on my computer, I wait impatiently as it boots up. I go online, and my breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words: You’ve got mail. I hear nothing, not even a sound on the streets of New York, just the beat of my own heart. I have mail. From you.”

I’ve given this a lot of thought as I begin writing my book. And I want it to feel like we have sat down in a coffee shop, in big comfy chairs, with a cup of our favorite coffees and are having a conversation as old and dear friends. Because whatever else it is, it ought to begin with personal.

Another quote from the movie, “You’ve Got Mail”:

JOE: It wasn’t personal —

KATHLEEN: — It was business. What is that supposed to mean? I am so sick of that. All it means is it’s not personal to you, but it’s personal to me, it’s personal to a lot of people. (she shrugs helplessly) What’s wrong with personal anyway?

JOE: Nothing.

KATHLEEN: I mean, whatever else anything is, it ought to begin by being personal.

Because whatever else it is, it ought to begin with personal. Until next time, dear friend.