Defining Your Leading Lady Role

They always say you need to know where you are going if you want to get there. That makes sense and seems like a good place to start.

I’ve been thinking about this for a while, even before I started writing on this blog. I once had a job where I did things that I never thought I would do and became someone who I didn’t even know was in there. It was a time in my life when I had nothing to lose and everything to gain. Some might call that rock bottom.  It is probably a good thing I couldn’t afford the luxury to think too long and hard on it, or I might have realized that myself. I kept busy and basically just did what I was told to do with my job even if they were things that scared me, and I just sort of popped out. There was a me in there that I knew nothing about. The more she came out, the more confident I became. Putting ourselves out there and making changes is so hard, but if we have a plan and we do it, it’s a numbers game. We change. People respond. Not everyone but some will and the more it happens, the more we start to come out and feel like the real us.

So who do I want to be? What do I want my leading lady role to look like?

Some might say that we are who we are and that we shouldn’t try to be something we’re not. I disagree with that. Our life experiences help make up who we are. Our daily choices also help make us who we are. Change your experiences and your choices, and you might find that the desire you have is there because that is who you really are. Not to mention, so much of anything is learned or can be learned.

So stay tuned. I’m coming back tomorrow with my list. I’m going to warn you ahead of time my list is long. I’m not sure that I will get to everything on mine in my lifetime, but a bigger list helps to give us a bigger picture. You are the leading lady of your own life, and it’s your list. Make it as long or as short as you want.  I’ll be back to post mine tomorrow.

Commitment

Day 1 – Commitment

Today, we begin the journey. The journey to a better me. Or better yet, the best version of me. A true leading lady.

I read recently where if you want to change your life, change one thing you do every day. I’m not going to promise that we are going to do that. I’m not sure that I can change one thing every day. I would probably start getting stumped at number 46, or maybe even number 4. But what we are going to do is to embark on a journey where we are consciously living and consciously making choices, good choices. Living life on purpose. Maybe that will come down to changing one thing every day. What I do know is this blog is my commitment to the journey, our journey to define and live the role of leading ladies in our own lives.

The Journey

This is a journal for reclaiming the role we want to lead in my own lives. This is the first day of the rest of our lives. We are changing our choices and changing our lives to be the person we want to be, the person we were born to be.

The blog is my daily journal. I’m using the word daily very loosely here. I’m not sure I have ever done anything daily in my life, short of a few basic things and feed my children, which is part of the reason that I chose to blog the journey, to keep me accountable. It’s more of a commitment pledge, minus the pledge…or too much commitment. I read somewhere to effect change that you must do something EVERY day in order to create a true habit for at least 30 days but longer is even better. If you had any idea how the thought of that makes my ADD self want to hyperventilate, you would hand me a paper bag right now.